well im hunching it's the relay for now.
i pulled the flasher relay out and the alarm still activates the indicators so i spent the last day and a half calling auto stores and electricians for a replacement relay without success.
ended up having to order one through honda which had to come from melb. bit steep on the price but shall wait and see if it resolves it. will let you know on the outcome.

[edit] i did check hazard button and everything appears to be in place.