Lerroy, I've got an Exedy Organic clutch in my DC4. Alot stiffer and tighter than OEM, but not as "on/off" as more hardcore ceramic and brass button applications. Should be a happy medium.
However, if you're going as far as to invest in a Toda fly, you might be aiming for something rather performance based. Speak to Adrian @ Advan (TODA AU on these forums) and see what he'd suggest as a good partner to your Toda fly.

All the best.

P.S: If you don't track or drag, and sit in alot of traffic, a lightened fly might merely prove a hassle. I hear they take a fair bit of getting used to, as your revs drop extremely quick. Couple that with a stiff clutch with a low engagement point, and it might be more hassle than it's worth.