two things for you to try:

http://honda-tech.com/showthread.php?t=2624753
http://www.ozhonda.com/forum/showthr...ighlight=relay

I had exact same thing happen to me well besides me pulling lead out stupidly. Turned out to be a burnt coil, bought new one of ebay for $30 whilst everyone else wanted $80 and ebay one has been A++ for 2 years of Hondarape