Manage to find some help and till then I am able to wire the mirrors in with just the switch to control it, but that would defeat the automatic folding feature that should be controlled by the relay, which I assume from reading. The relay is a solid state controlling device that has only 4 wires going to it. The relay itself has 5 pins, but looks to not have the 5th connection in use (pin 2 on the connector). I'm sure that Honda uses the relay, or other similar ones that are wired the same for other functions, but unfortuneatly havn't found anything yet, or similar. Anyone who knows more about Honda relays will be of a help, but until I hear of anything else, I will have to do more research.